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Understanding the personality of an emotional bully’s victim: 

• The person most likely affected by the emotional abuser will tend to be naïve, innocent, too trusting, and gullible.
• They believe in the best of people and are kind, caring, empathetic and ‘people pleasing’, male and female alike, any age.
• They find it difficult to identify let alone accept, the ‘ugly’, ‘mean’ evil and dark side of life, believing only in the intrinsic goodness of people.
• They are not good at setting emotional boundaries, and don’t see the essential need for emotional self-protection.
• They battle to say ‘no’ without feeling guilty, especially to manipulative or controlling people.
• They can often be highly intelligent, too understanding, adaptable and accepting, especially of challenging people and situations.
• This means they will often give the benefit of the doubt, give second chances, use reason, negotiate, and find solutions to problems.
• They are responsible and accountable.
• They may represent a threat in some form to the perpetrator.

To manage any type of bully:

• Identify them.
• Face them without fear.
• Let them know that you have seen through them either through words or action or both.
• Move away from them as quickly as possible.
• Give them NO more time or energy.

There is ultimately only one way to deal with a bully and that’s by giving them a taste of their own medicine in some form. Bully a bully. It’s the only language they understand.

“When my client has learned to answer their own questions, my job is done”.

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